Many consider grumbling to be normal because of the stressful conditions a person goes through, but it negatively affects our brains and physical health. Because of grumbling, the rate of sadness and depression increases, in addition to a feeling of permanent dissatisfaction in our lives.
Numerous research shows that people complain once every minute during any conversation because complaining gives a temporary sense of enjoyment, but like many harmful things in our lives that we find enjoyable, such as eating junk food or smoking, complaining is also harmful, it is fully linked to stress. Negative, as complaining is responsible for the secretion of the stress hormone “cortisol”, which in turn weakens the immune system, making it more susceptible to high cholesterol, heart disease, and obesity, and makes the brain more vulnerable to strokes, and other diseases, such as diabetes or asthma, too Besides increasing headaches, joint pain and depression, the only way to get rid of these symptoms is to stop complaining and complaining constantly. In this article, we will discuss seven very important and easy-to-implement steps to get rid of disgust disguised in our daily lives once and for all.
First, nurture positive thoughts
You can nurture positive thoughts in your life by changing the way you think, which is much easier said than done, but becomes easy when you cultivate the idea that it can happen on the ground, it is possible to do a problem from nothing, because of how we perceive it, as it may It is just an idea, we feed it in a negative way, and we have a problem, but if we face it from a positive perspective, our awareness of this idea will lag completely, and there will be no problem at all.
There are a lot of people who feel constantly nervous about their children always being perfect, or about getting the perfect job, or the perfect life partner, and therefore they have a constant need to complain if their lives are not as perfect as they thought, but they can change that by accepting The idea that there is no place for perfection in this life, and that no one ever has this advantage, we all have our shortcomings. By nurturing this idea and accepting the shortcomings in our lives and the lives of those around us, will greatly reduce stress and grumbling.
Second, learn to adapt
The only certainty in life is that things don’t stay the same, and change is coming in no time. There are some negative changes that may occur in our daily lives, such as losing a job or separation from a life partner, which have a strong negative impact on the human psyche, and to get rid of the feeling of sadness associated with such matters, a person must accept them and be satisfied that they have occurred, and there is no room for To go back in time and change it.
Being alone for a short period in which he lives his sadness while trying to adapt to the new situation helps a lot in overcoming the negative feeling resulting from this change, and a person can consider it an experience and a positive opportunity for renewal and development, rather than an insurmountable obstacle. Leaving your old job can be a transitional station to something new, such as a better job, starting your own business, or developing your skills and discovering talents that you may not have known about before.
Third: Be more aware
The past can never be changed, and there is no point in worrying about the future, as all you have to do is think about the “now,” which is the present moment and how to enjoy it, complaining about what happened in the past or what might happen in the future is a mental exercise Negative is useless. Instead of spending your energy and effort complaining and thinking about what happened and what might happen, devote this energy to what you can invest in the current seconds and minutes of your life to avoid mistakes you made in your past and act correctly in your present and future.
You can do this by reading, for example, about how to develop yourself, learning a new language, learning skills in searching for a new job, or replacing negative thoughts with positive ones by attending the many free online courses provided by self-developers, the most famous of which is Dr. Ahmed Emara, and life coach Issa Assaf, who gives you the psychological and practical tactics for doing just that.
Fourth: Be firm
Getting rid of the negative habit of complaining does not mean that you are someone who does what he does not want because he does not want to complain, assertiveness is an effective way to explain to others your duties towards them as well as your rights over them, and assertiveness means your ability to say to others “no”, instead of complaining about something that is not You have the power to do. You can show your assertiveness to others through your body language, for example, self-confidence shown by standing straight, shaking hands warmly with others, or speaking that does not need an explanation to understand your point of view, and avoiding stuttering that may push you into embarrassing situations, all are signs of your confidence in yourself Which in turn sets boundaries for the people around you and does not allow them to expose you to situations that make you a complaining person.
Fifth: Don’t judge others
Everyone, including you, is a sinner. Criticizing the mistakes of others or judging them as right or wrong invites you to complain constantly and puts you in a constant state of tension. You should delete from your dictionary all the vocabulary that may put you in the circle of complaining about the behavior of others, such as saying “So-and-so did this because he does not trust me” or “So-and-so did this because he is arrogant.” You cannot always control the decisions of others, and therefore you cannot ever judge them, you do not know the circumstances that led them to act in this way and make some decisions, and you do not always have to be right, it is possible that your judgment on them is wrong, and their decisions are the right ones. Whenever any judgment comes to your mind about others, try not to feed this idea, and divert from it by occupying yourself with what is useful for your time, and the good words you speak with others or with yourself have a great role in influencing your life positively, and it is a good way to keep you away About grumbling forever.
Sixth: Be responsible for your mistakes only
You are not responsible for other people’s mistakes and you are not obligated to tolerate their complaining about what happens to them, try not to be with people who always complain about their mistakes, they transfer their negative energy to you, and you may become a complainer like them. There is no harm in being a little selfish, and refusing to listen to people’s complaints at a time that is not designated for that, and when you listen to their complaints, try as much as possible not to be affected by them, and change their negative perspective on the situation to a positive one that rids them of this negative habit of complaining.
Seven: Move forward in your life
Do not allow life’s obstacles, whatever they are, to prevent you from progressing and developing for the better in your life, as you are sure to find many people or circumstances that will prevent you from doing so, but there is no excuse that prevents you from eliminating bad circumstances or staying away from negative people. Remember that all situations in life, good or bad, will pass, and life problems cannot last forever, and they are temporary matters that will pass and take their time and pass, you, in turn, control the duration of their stay and their impact on you through the way you think about them, if you think about them in a negative way, they will remain It has been with you for a long time, and it will affect aspects of your psychological, social and material life, but if you think about it from a positive perspective, you will certainly pass it and look for how to solve it.
Once you follow these simple steps and stay away from the negative habit of complaining, you will have a life free of problems, full of positive energy, success, and confidence, so do not bother yourself with what harms it and always be kind to it.